‘At the Movies’ I aint
In the light of my spiteful and hate filled rant against the ‘little mermaid’ I thought I should talk about a disney film I did like. Beauty and the beast.
The bad guy in the film is the charming handsom debonare man in the town. His idea of a perfect relationship would be to have beel dedicate the rest of her living days to sitting at his feet on the floor in quiet adoration, looking up at him in awe without any oterh care in the world. He is her whole life.
She told him to kiss off. How totaly unsublike. Not buying into the hype that ‘natures way’ is for the femail of the species to sacfrice everytiung and never have any personality of their own.
When she finaly meants the hero of the film, she stays with him under protest. Doing so in order to save her family (remember that the little mermaid sacfriced her family for what she belived in, not sacfricing herself for the sake of her family like bell).
And they didnt get along at all. Its not the standard steriotype of ugly on the outside but with a heart of gold. He was a total asshole. Angry. Short tempered. Bitter.
….. but …..
They found something they share in common. They both read books. Once they find this out they are able to grow toward each other emotionaly. The foundation of their relationship is not some wide-eyes adoration of sacfricing it all in the name of true love. Its finding something similar in another that is also in yourself.
Somethign I just read that struck me deeply is ‘I dont want a lover who compleets me. I want a lover who complements me.’ If there is nothing inside at all and your depending on another for everyting, there is nothing of yourself that can be complemented.